Courage to Dream

Courage

Many of us hold back, sometimes unconsciously, on pursuing dreams–because of fear. We sometimes dwell on possible negative outcomes like failure or embarrassment.

Seminar students often say, they stay in their “comfort zones” too much because of “what people might think” if they tried something special. They also admit they hesitate instinctively when seeking goals outside their comfort zones.

When that happens, we need a bigger vision, a “why” to expand thinking, actions, and expectations. When we expand expectations of ourselves, that expanded vision becomes part of our new comfort zone, which our instincts will strive to fulfill.

Fear of embarrassment is a self-induced barrier. We sometimes let the fear of what people will think if we try and fail hold us back. But, the truth often is, they likely admire us more if they see our courage to try and persist through adversity. 

What percentage of the time will you succeed if you do not try? 

Consider the people you admire–they likely have tried, failed, and kept trying to fulfill ideas in which they believe, even if others could see their flaws and failures. You likely admire their courage. Success stories usually include recollections of desire and dedication–not successes at goals requiring little effort or risk.

Follow the example of those you admire. Allow yourself to try and sometimes fall short as you give yourself more chances to succeed as well as grow capacity in courage and commitment.

Just do your best, learn and improve from failures and successes, and enjoy the freedom that comes with courage.

May you PLAN and LEAD your LIFE and share with others. –David

Source: adapted from an excerpt in Suggestions for Successful Living: Positive Ideas for the 7 Areas of Life by Dr. David Dyson (1994). Author web site: www.DrDavidDyson.com

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Read a summary of Independence Day to internalize a deeper commemoration

As we celebrate Independence Day, remember appreciation of Veterans and families, including those since 1776, and share with others the national history that:

America’s Veterans Day was born in Birmingham and Advanced in Alabama.

To share more with a teacher or another patriot, they can read about how Veterans Day started and the summary of Independence Day by reading online or getting the book:

Get the book Patriotism in Action with a guide about patriotic holidays and traditions

The United States celebrates annually the Declaration of
Independence as a free nation on July 4, 1776. We recognize
that day as the official time American Democracy was born.

Read more highlights about Independence Day

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Break the Anger Addiction

“TWO THINGS A MAN SHOULD NEVER BE ANGRY AT: WHAT HE CAN HELP AND WHAT HE CANNOT HELP.”

-THOMAS FULLER-

Many people seem to be addicted to anger.

The addiction often means a person will first focus on complaining, venting frustration, and creating drama…instead of focusing on a solution to the problem with a reasonable level of confidence that most problems can be solved or, at least, situations improved.

When a challenge arises, do you focus first on the solution or feel negative feelings that you have another problem?

Two examples

When working with Veterans Making Comebacks (from homelessness using caused by responses), I learned many got there because of mindsets that led to addictions, sometimes including drugs or alcohol, though almost always including a tendency to feel bad or negative at life’s circumstances. Many who assessed themselves as addicted to stimulants often also admitted some form of tendency toward anger. Some responded to their bad feelings by escaping into drinking or fighting with family (arguments mostly) of fighting with fists (often a bars with other angry men)–or numerous other ways to avoid their situations mentally.

Most I met who faced PTSD, moral injury, or pains associated with re-entry into civilian life either ended up stronger emotionally or they stayed in a state of “broke down,” at least for awhile. One of the determinants of the path taken is the choice or propensity to “think solutions” or “focus on failure.”

Another fresh example is, I tried to help a man fix a problem logging into an account using his computer. Technical support kept trying to help me help him though for the first four tries their system kept declining the newly set password. So, four times I advised we needed to edit the previous password by at least one number or letter to try again. Each time, instead of answer the request, he created visible signs of anger, repeatedly asked how many times had he “given them a new password,” and even spoke, “this stuff can give me a heart attack.” The obvious answer is to just help with the solution. Complaints or heart attacks don’t help. This man has formed a pattern–it is more comfortable to “melt down” than “stand up” with a little “courage” and “cool wits.”

Here’s a simple strategy to help: add this sentence to your Life Plan or Life Constitution–When faced with problems or stress, I… [fill in the sentence as your best-self would.] Read it out loud daily for as long as you need to replace old patterns of anger “acting out” with instinctive responses that focus on making situations better instead of worse.

You can do this if you become aware of your vision for yourself and your actual behavior and use the difference to motivate you to better thoughts and actions.

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Greatest Use of Life

WilliamJames

“The greatest use of life

is for something that will outlast it.”

– William James –

William James, philosopher and psychologist also trained as a physician, was the first educator to offer a psychology course in the United States. More.

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Plato and Our First Victory

Plato“The first and best victory

is to conquer self.”

Plato

Best-Self Leadership is the first best practice to plan and lead in life. –David

7 Best Practices for Life Leadership Continuum and 7 Areas of Life Pyramid

Dyson Life Leadership Model 1987 Gold

To prepare students and professionals to do their best requires teaching and rewarding learning and development in Best-Self Leadership.

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